Why Have a Honeymoon After Your Wedding?

Reasons to Have a Honeymoon

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As your wedding approaches, you may be asking yourselves, why have a honeymoon at all? What is a honeymoon for?

When you think about it, a honeymoon is expensive, it takes you away from your "real" life, and it involves planning — when you may already feel overwhelmed by wedding details. No wonder that some couples decide not to have a honeymoon, or at least to delay theirs.

Yet there are valid and compelling reasons to organize a honeymoon and schedule it as close to your wedding as possible.

These are some of the best reasons to have a honeymoon:

To Relax. Even the most modest weddings can be stressful and tiring for both the bride and groom. And if you're like most couples, you'll spend more time with your guests than your new spouse at your wedding. A honeymoon is your opportunity to finally relax alone together.

To Celebrate. You're married! At last! After all the time, thought, and cash devoted to the big party, give yourselves private moments to kick back and celebrate your new status as an official couple.

To Adjust. Even if you don't opt for a name change, it still may take a little time to get used to having the world see you as a couple.

To Make Love. Okay, you don't need to pack a suitcase to do this. But on a honeymoon you can make love for hours undisturbed. Doing so in a beautiful setting away from home fosters intimacy, a cornerstone of a strong marriage.

To Be Pampered.

A honeymoon is for experiencing bliss. Are you spa fans, or want to try a treatment for the first time? Either way, consider getting side-by-side massages (if your honeymoon in the tropics, you may be able to request massages in a shaded, private outdoor area). And if you get excited by all that professional touching, well, it is your honeymoon and your room is nearby.

After such pleasuring, you're likely to return home relaxed and glowing.

To Explore. A honeymoon sends a couple out into the world together, and it's one of life's joys to experience new places together. Whether you prefer to explore on your own, with a map or guidebook, take a tour, or even hire a private guide, you'll get more out of a destination by doing some destination-specific research before you go. That way you'll have a better idea of what not to miss.

To Taste. Even if you spend your honeymoon nights in an Airbnb, shop for groceries and cook on your holiday, aim to take advantage of some of the culinary treasures around you. From farmer's markets to ethnic eateries to white-linen-tablecloth restaurants, savor the sensual treats of new flavors and dishes.

To Sleep in a New Bed. Whether you've been previously catching zzzs in a rental apartment, a dormitory, on the bed you grew up sleeping in at mom and dad's place, or on a so-so mattress in a place you've been sharing, luxuriate in a firm (but not too-firm) mattress where you honeymoon. If it's a good hotel, it may even have (and sell) it's own brand of mattress, such as the Heavenly Bed found at Westin hotels. Perhaps that will convince you that you need a great bed to start married life in after the honeymoon.

And if that's the case, don't scrimp on sheets (high thread count is softest) and splurge on a pair of down pillows.

To Plan for the Future. A honeymoon gives a couple quiet time to imagine their future. Do you want children or are you complete being a twosome? What kind of family do you envision? Where do you want to be in five years? Ten? Twenty? More than sweet nothings are whispered on long honeymoon strolls on the beach and during candlelight dinners.

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