Tips for Writing a Love Letter Your Beloved Will Cherish

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Men and women alike put a great deal of time, effort and money into searching for a perfect gift to reflect the love they feel on Valentine's Day.

Yet as hard as they search and as much as they spend, a gift made by another simply can't match the impact of a personally handwritten card and well-conceived love letter.

Any day of the year, love letters are rare gifts that don't cost a thing yet may be treasured for a lifetime.

Many a person has been seduced by a sincere and beautifully illustrated love letter or poem.

Steps for Writing a Love Letter

  1. Clear your desk and your mind of distractions. If you love someone enough to craft this letter, he or she deserves your full attention.
  2. Place a picture of the one you love in front of you.
  3. Put on your favorite music.
  4. Take out your best letter writing stationery and pen.
  5. On another sheet of paper, make two lists: a) the unique qualities you love about him/her; b) how you hope your future together will play out.
  6. Personalize the love letter salutation. "Dear ___ ," or "To my darling _____," are both fine.
  7. Make it unique: In the body of the love letter, begin by telling him/her what you think makes him/her so special. List at least three different qualities of the one you love in the letter, ideally emotional, physical, and spiritual ones.
  8. In the next paragraph of your love letter, share your hopes and dreams for the future you can have together.
  1. Personalize the closing of the letter. "I will love you always," "Loving you forever," "My heart is yours," are all good possibilities.
  2. Don't forget to sign your love letter!
  3. Spray the love letter with a light fragrance.
  4. Address, seal, and stamp the love letter.
  5. Wait a day before you send your love letter; you may change your mind.
  1. Drop the love letter in the mail, and look forward to the response.


  1. Don't mention anyone else but yourself and the addressee in the love letter.
  2. Make sure you only send a love letter to someone who will appreciate it.
  3. Pick out a special stamp for your love letter at the post office.


Consider these deeply felt words from the poet Elizabeth Barrett Browning's "Sonnet XLIIII" from Sonnets from the Portuguese as inspiration for when you put pen to paper for your love letter:

How do I love thee? Let me count the ways.
I love thee to the depth and breadth and height
My soul can reach, when feeling out of sight
For the ends of being and ideal grace.
I love thee to the level of every day's
Most quiet need, by sun and candle-light.
I love thee freely, as men strive for right.
I love thee purely, as they turn from praise.
I love thee with the passion put to use
In my old griefs, and with my childhood's faith.
I love thee with a love I seemed to lose
With my lost saints. I love thee with the breath,
Smiles, tears, of all my life; and, if God choose, 
I shall but love thee better after death.

As they say, imitation is the sincerest form of flattery. Check out other famous love quotes for inspiration.

 It's okay to borrow phrases to quote in your own love letters (but it's extra classy if you attribute the quotation). Books in this collection may also inspire you to create your own message of love.